Vulnerability: The key to change

In this episode of “Las 3 R’s Podcast” Nathaly Marcus and Anamar Orihuela take us to reflect on what it means to be a doña huevotes: strong, resilient women, but often disconnected from their vulnerability. Discover how to heal, let go of self-demand and embrace your duality from love and compassion.

I broke, and discovered my vulnerability.

Today I want to talk to you from a deep place, a place we often find hard to look at: our vulnerability. This blog is an invitation to let go of that role that many of us have assumed, the role of Doña Huevotes. That strong, resistant woman, who is always in control, but who deep down, longs for something more: to reconnect with herself, with her most human and loving part.

Breaking is not a bad thing. To break is to recognize that we are dual beings, that we feel fear, anger, sadness, guilt, but also love and hope. At the end of the day, closing cycles with love is an act of courage. For those of us who are moms, and also for dads, parenting brings us to face those inner places we would rather avoid: the wounds of our childhood, the words we were not told, or the affection we lacked. And it is there, in that pain, that we can find answers, heal and, above all, connect.

But here’s the catch: in our eagerness to do everything right, to not make mistakes, to be enough, we put on the mask of self-sufficiency. We become that woman who can do everything, but who sometimes forgets herself. That woman who hates to depend, who executes, leads, achieves… but runs away from her vulnerability. And our children, like great teachers, return us again and again to those uncomfortable terrains that we do not want to travel.

It’s not about judging the past self with the eyes of the present. That version of ourselves was doing the best we could with what we had. Perhaps we chose survival modes that worked for us at the time, but now we understand that those mechanisms sometimes take us away from what really matters.

This text is a reminder that it is okay to feel. It is okay to make mistakes, to fail, to get tired, and even to give up. Being vulnerable is not weakness, it is a path to our true strength. Because we didn’t come here to be perfect. We came here to learn, to love and, above all, to embrace ourselves whole: with our lights and our shadows.

So, if today you feel broken, if you carry guilt or reproaches towards yourself, remember that the path of healing begins with compassion. Look at your wounds, acknowledge your pain, and make peace with yourself. The woman you are today would not be as strong if she hadn’t walked the path behind her.

And remember: you are not just Doña Huevotes, you are also that woman full of love and capacity to connect, to create, to feel. There is enormous power in your vulnerability.

This blog is dedicated to you, who are looking for balance, healing and, above all, an embrace with yourself.