Loving authentically

In this episode of “The 3 R´s Podcast”, Nathaly Marcus and Tere Díaz Sendraexplore how to redefine love from a mature and realistic perspective. We talk about the importance of knowing ourselves, setting boundaries, and building relationships based on commitment, intimacy, and authentic passion. Join us to discover how to make love a shared project full of growth.

Redefining Love: A Personal and Couples Journey

Love, that word so loaded with expectations and desires, is also one of the topics that confuses us the most. The stories we have heard, the ones we have seen in our family or in movies, often lead us to idealize a form of love that, in reality, does not fit what we really need. We feel so lost, we doubt if it is worth trusting again, letting go of the fear and giving our heart to another person. But what if I told you that true love does not have to be perfect, but real?

We live in an age in which we have been taught to fight for what we want, not to depend on anyone and of course, to be self-sufficient. This is all very well, but what happens when that autonomy becomes a barrier that prevents us from living a deep and committed relationship? Love is not only a personal project, but also a shared one. The ideal is to find that balance where both can grow, evolve and, above all, enjoy the process.

It is normal that over time doubts arise about what love really is. Idealization, that search for perfection in the other, is a great obstacle. The expectations we have of how love “should be” often lead us to lose sight of what is really important: intimacy, commitment and passion, which is not only sexual, but also emotional, affective. True love is built day by day, with the complicity of each action, of each conversation, of each shared moment.

And throughout our lives, women change. They mature, they adapt to new realities, to new ways of thinking and living. Economic autonomy, for example, has been an important transformation. We no longer want to be considered second class citizens or completely dependent on the male figure. We want equality and voice and a vote in decisions. And yet, at the same time, we often find ourselves with the difficult task of finding a partner who can admire us as we are, who does not feel threatened by our independence. This contradiction can be a major obstacle.

But what if love were not just a matter of admiration? Over the years, we have learned that true love is not based on the search for perfection in another person, but on mutual acceptance, on the ability to grow together, in the creation of a common project. This project must go beyond social expectations, beyond the romantic ideals that have been sold to us. And that is where the magic begins, when we put aside unrealistic expectations and allow ourselves to live love in an authentic, realistic way.

In sexual life, for example, desire also matures. It is not just about the physical, but a continuous game of giving and receiving, of creating a dance that adapts over time, with life, with emotions. As we grow, our needs change and what was once sufficient is not longer anymore. But what does not mean that desire has disappeared, but rather that it has evolved. And when we understand this, when we accept it, our life as a couple becomes richer and deeper.

Love and relationships are also nourished by respect, trust and limits. How often do we find it difficult to set limits? The fear of losing the other person, of being rejected, makes us allow things we shouldn’t. It is essential to know  what is negotiable and what is not, and not be afraid to talk about it. Accepting our differences, working on our insecurities, and being willing to learn together is what makes a relationship last.

Sometimes love faces difficult tests. Infidelity, for example, is a complicated issue. There are situations that simply cannot be forgiven, but there are also infidelities that arise from a complex process, from moments of disconnection. The key is honesty, in regaining trust little by little, with work and real commitment from both parties.

Love cannot be everything, but it can do a lot if we are looking for, if we understand that there is nothing more beautiful than growing together, that life as a couple is a dance that, although it has ups and downs, can always be a source of joy, if we are both willing to dance. On this path, mature love is the one that invites us to live with our own projects, to enjoy our passions and to find in our partner not only a life partner, but also an accomplice with whom to share the magic of living.

In the end, real love is not measured by perfection, but by the commitment to grow together.